The community is filled with guys who post really bizarre text screenshots & doing it in the façade of ‘trolling’, or how they were just ‘having fun’ or how ‘she wasn’t that hot anyway’. Most of what’s popular is focusing on racking up the lay-count and getting involved with as many 9s and 10s as possible. Which actually takes A LOT away from the newer guys. Imagine already having bad social skills, but instead of working on the social skills, they’re focusing on ONLY going after ‘9s and 10s’ in the very beginning of their journey.
This is why you see a ton of guys who’ve gotten what seems like ‘success’ and disappear. The whole journey was painful & a pretty volatile experience for the guy. (Which is also why you hear so many guys preach about how ‘hardcore’ you have to be to reach ‘true success’). Instead of treating the girl like a person, you’re pressured into looking at women as a 4,5,6 or a ‘HB10’ (Hot Babe scale).
Even with all the free routines & lines available out there, guys still have a ton of trouble figuring it out and it’s because of one thing. Being a little more… normal. There needs to be more attention given to the human side of things but there’s virtually nothing out there. And one of the ways you can focus on in online dating to get good at this is by focusing on the foreplay. Why foreplay? Most times, guy’s don’t have trouble with more matches. They can’t even convert the whole row of matches they’re already getting. The 3 most common ways how guys screw up foreplay in the matches they already get & how they can fix this:
1. Taking Too Long To Respond
Or not even responding in some cases. Guys in this camp have probably heard about Joe Schmoe telling them about how you need to wait a specific number of hours/days before texting. And what happens is guys end up overextending this rule because they start getting into a ‘logical’ headspace and start doing things they would never do in real life. Look, you shouldn’t be going out of your way to text her & always responding to her seconds after her text just shows that you really have nothing else more important going on in your life. Which for most guys who’re already seeing a degree of success ? This is NOT the case. And so instead of just being normal & responding on their own time, they overcomplicate the whole thing and burn out.
2. Forgetting That You’re On A Dating App
Guys SAY they get the whole idea about how being nice doesn’t work. But when you look at their texts, it spells out a whole different story, and while on the surface it might look like you’re just trying to be ‘friendly’? At the core of it, guys are afraid to have a romantic interaction. Being romantic means there is a degree of tension between the two of you. Being ‘friendly’ has ZERO tension. And here we come across the next issue which is…
3. Not Building a Connection
This is where you are having a good banter but you cut it off too quickly & abruptly push for the meet. Just because you’re not supposed to be ‘friendly’, that doesn’t mean you can skip steps. A romantic interaction without a real connection is uncomfortable for the both of you. By now you might be wondering what foreplay might look like in text.
And these are things like humor, sarcasm, banter… basically almost any conversation that contains even the slightest bit of substance. If all you’re doing is simply going back and forth without any real emotion, you’re not really ‘applying the process’. And I get it, it’s easy to say but doing it is a whole other thing.
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Just by having a basic understanding of foreplay and knowing the right signs and things to say at the right time, you’ll instantly be able to skyrocket your ‘tension control’ ability in text. Which also means that you’ll be having the skill to arouse exciting emotions in her with masterful play through text in no time.
Coach Armin
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